Some Things Are Better Left Unsaid

We’ve All Heard It Before

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We have all heard it before. If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all. Words to live by. But most of us do not abide by them. Everyone is guilty, not one of us hasn’t said something we wish we could take back. Whether it be spoken out loud, sent in a text, or an e-mail. The end result is the same. The recipient gets her, or his feelings hurt, an awkwardness ensues and generally the entire thing gets blown out of proportion.

Shut Up

Can’t we all learn to keep our mouths closed? I’m beginning to believe it is an impossibility. On the norm we all love to gossip. Have you heard this about so and so? It’s utterly scandalous. One thing leads to another and soon the one person we do not want to find out we’ve been chatting about them, knows. 

We Are All Flawed

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Does this mean we aren’t nice? No, it means we are human. As humans we are all flawed. None of us is perfect, we all bitch and complain occasionally. All of us talk about other people behind their backs. Some of us are more vicious about it. Catty, snarky, and backstabbers, we all know who they are. None of us is perfect and we need to take into consideration we make mistakes. Once a mistake is made the most important thing to do is correct it. Reach out, get in touch, try and rectify. Otherwise, time goes by, no one makes the first move and before we know it that said person is gone. It is too late to make amends.

Whoops

Text messages are often misconstrued. Unless there is a smiley face attached, or a lol, at times the recipient often misunderstands them. Have you ever sent one and immediately wish you could take it back? I think we all have. Saying that, in forethought we shouldn’t have sent the text in the first place. Maybe so, but sometimes in hindsight it’s the best thing that could have happened.

Little White Lies

If we all said what was on our minds, our most inner thoughts. I think we’d scare people. Most of us have a tendency to pacify, blurt out half-truths and tell people what we think they want to hear. The words that come out of our mouths are not what we really think. Such as, I love that dress on you, it looks beautiful. When in reality we are thinking, good God that’s the most hideous thing I’ve seen in my life. I cannot believe she left her house looking like that. Of course, those words would never come out of our mouths. But sometimes our brain short circuits and it’s all we can think about. I do think little white lies are at times necessary, so feelings do not get hurt.

Gossip Me?

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Gossipy women are the worst, although my husband tells me wild stories about a group of guys, he shoots pool with. They run a close second. Drama. Women can be snobbish, rude and condescending. Often the women they hate the most are the ones who they think are prettier, younger, or curvier. Women should uplift and empower other women. Don't drag them down, be a girl's girl. There is that rare breed of woman who does not like other women. For whatever reason. Secretly I think it’s jealousy. Women friends are the best, having someone we can confide in (besides your husband) and tell our secrets. A BFF, a bestie, a woman we know we can tell anything, and it will go no further than her.

When it’s all said and done, we all know we are better off keeping our lips zipped-our thoughts to ourselves. Turn the other cheek. Forgive and forget, life is too short to hold onto grudges. Let it go. Live and let live.

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Let's leave things unsaid and live a stress-free life.

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