Home Projects

You Want Me to What

Have you ever done home projects with your husband? Maybe the better question is have you ever finished a home project with your husband? Maybe you’ve finished one but at the end of it are you still speaking to one another. Don’t feel alone if the answer is no. 

My Husband

Gary is a man’s man. What I mean by that is he works with his hands. He can take anything apart and put it back together again. He has redone our entire house and also added on an addition. He knows what he’s doing. 

Most of the time I leave him alone to do whatever it is he has to do. Although sometimes he needs my help. Whether it’s helping him hold up a piece of drywall or putting up a canopy outside, I’m there. We will talk about the canopy story later. Just tonight we (when I say we I mean I supervise) put together a chair ordered from Wayfair. There were only three pieces, but the bolts and washers were scattered everywhere. I’ve never seen so many. Gary sat and looked at the instructions and then put the thing together. He is amazing sometimes. There is no way I could have put it together myself. With this project there was no yelling, no arguing, no nothing. It went smoothly. That doesn’t always happen. 

Tell Me Again

Let’s get back to the canopy story. We have a canopy we can set up for parties. It’s nice because it keeps the sun out if it gets too hot. Gary got it out of the garage and we took it out of its casing. The thing is huge and you really need at the very least three people to set it up. It was just Gary and me so you probably know the outcome of the entire thing. There is a way to do it, and it has to be done that way otherwise it won’t be set up right. Gary was telling me to do something and apparently, I wasn’t understanding what his instructions were exactly. His voice kept getting louder and louder. Finally I said, “I am not ever helping you put this stupid thing up again”. Eventually deciding it wasn’t windy we took the thing down and put it away. Next time I’ll wait until other people are here and they can help him. 

Second Time Is the Charm

There was also the time we put in a new microwave, and I had to hold it up while he put screws in the back of it. It wasn't exactly light, and I was bent over, and I kept telling him to hurry up because I couldn’t hold it much longer. He finally got done and I looked at him and said, “I am never doing that again”. 

Too Much Togetherness

There are certain things a husband and wife should do together but projects around the house isn’t one of them. Not at our house anyway. Normally one of us will get mad and start yelling, then the entire project falls apart. It’s better if Gary does the first part by himself and then I do the second. Such as in drywalling and mudding and taping. After he’s done with that, I’ll do the painting and decorating. It works out well. We have pretty much completed the entire house. One bedroom upstairs needs to be done yet and a railing put in and then our house is done. We’ve only lived here for over ten years, well me anyway. For Gary this is the house he grew up in. 

To keep peace in the family we try not to do too many projects together. At times it’s unavoidable. I think we both know when we’ve had enough. 

In August we start the bedroom. So, if you drive by and see things flying out the window. It’s just Gary and I remodeling. 

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Project togetherness, that's what Gary and I need.

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