Have You Had Your Heart Broken

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There aren’t many of us who can claim we’ve never been broken-hearted. Those who go through life without experiencing it, count yourselves one of the lucky ones. It isn’t fun. 

Teen Angst

I believe it would be worse being a teenager. All those hormones raging anyway and then to get your heart broken in two on top of that. It must quite possibly seem like the end of the world. Tomorrow will never be brighter, the next day after that drags into the next day after that. Swirling into a depression, teenagers in love. Can there be anything more destructive as it implodes. Two hearts shattered or possibly one tender heart broken in two. Seems as if one half of the pair goes merrily on their way without a thought or care they have fractured and fragmented an already bruised heart. Leaving the broken hearted one alone, isolated and destroyed. Whether they pick up the pieces and move on, it depends on the belief they have in themselves. Their constitution and resolve. Determination and enduring strength to push forward beyond all odds.

Is It Over

As an adult, in some marriages partners drift apart. Kids come along; life gets busy. No more time for romance. Reality slaps them in the face quickly and brutally. Love turns into resentment, honesty into lies, and love into hate. How did it come to this? Where did they go wrong? Perhaps nowhere, sometimes love just dies. Without nurturing, understanding, compassion, and hard work love withers and dies like a plant that hasn’t been watered for months. Is there a way to get that love back? In my experience I’d say no once it’s dead it’s gone. Move on. Although I may be a bit jaded.

Cheating Never Works

Cheating is also another way to let love die. What makes a person cheat on their spouse? Are they bored, did a guy or woman say the one thing you realize you’ve been waiting to hear for years. Some people make it easy for another person to swoop in and tear their marriage apart. In order to make a marriage work it takes two people. Only one person working on it will not work. Both are needed, two invested people in it for the long haul. If this isn’t the case, you should throw in the towel and call it quits because it isn’t going to work. Some people may not be able to get past the fact that cheating occurred. Picturing their better half with someone else is not something to be taken lightly. A bruised ego and a fragile heart will turn love into hate quickly. It is my belief I could never get part the fact that my husband was in bed with another woman, and it would kill all feelings I had for him. Forgiveness is one thing, forgetting is an impossibility. May as well throw in the towel and move on. Some people cannot move on from their spouse cheating on them. Often times it ends in violence. The wife has the husband killed or vice versa. Neither option is good especially if there are children involved. One parent is dead and the other in prison leaves kids on their own with no one to turn to for guidance. A fact that will alter and change the course of their young lives.

People are People

Love and marriage are intended to last forever, saying so in your vows solidifies it. Sadly, this is not the case in many marriages. Divorce is the only option; some may attend marriage counseling. Trying to work it out and get the spark back that was once present and has dimmed or extinguished completely. A collapsed and damaged union forever changed by the actions of the parties involved.

Do You Have Any

What are the symptoms of a broken heart? Two of them may be chest pain and shortness of breath. Your chest tightens as if it is in the throes of a heart attack. It happens when psychological distress triggers sudden weakness of your heart. Anxiety and stress are two huge factors. The withdrawal of your partner affects you more than you think. There is no time frame for healing a broken heart. People heal and grieve in their own time. In the long run it can leave deep wounds and everlasting scars.  Having a broken heart can also lead to depression so seeking help if this should happen is imperative. 

Mending a broken heart takes time. Start the healing process with self-care. Exercising, therapy, and loving yourself. Do not force yourself to move on. It will happen when you allow it to happen. It varies, it may take months or even years. 

Take care of yourself, for once let it be all about you.

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