Are You Rude

Things People Say

1. I’m not going to like working with you. 
2. I said, what are you looking at me for? She said, I was just wondering why men find you so attractive.
3. My mom makes me play with her.
4. You’d make a good witch for Halloween.
5. Hey, what’s that big thing you have on your lip? (Cold sore)
6. You look tired (as a mom it is rude when people say this).
7. Hey flathead (this one is true, as they all are).
8. I’m going to replace you in my wedding with a real friend.
9. Get the f**k out of here.
10. Is that the best you can do?

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We've All Seen It

We’ve all come across rude people in this life we lead. Some ruder than others. Many with no tact whatsoever. What do we say to these people? Perhaps we are better off not answering or commenting in any way. Make them squirm, sit in their own juices.

Ignore Them

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Rude, impolite, ill mannered, and discourteous. All words for anyone who is rude, disrespectful, or bad mannered. If you’re wondering where these people come from, be aware they are everywhere. They are at your workplace, ball games, public parks, family reunions, etc. We all have to endure them. Turn the other cheek and all that. To engage with them is a fruitless challenge. Why? Because those who are rude also have another trait, they are never wrong. May as well let them have their say and let it go. Otherwise, you will find yourself stressing out about something that’s not worth stressing out about. This rude person isn’t worth a minute of your time. Do not think about your interaction with them. Trust me, I’ve seen and done it before. The only one you will be hurting is yourself. 

Some people are born with their sensitivity gene missing. You sit in awe, listening to the words fly out of their mouths. There is no filter, they are narcissistic and unforgiving. They care not what they say. They care not whose feelings they hurt. At times they are deliberately offensive. Reveling in their rude wit. Rudeness has a negative impact on one’s life. Distance yourself from pessimistic people.

It Isn't Personal

The most important thing to is to not take anything they say personally. If you do, then they own you. It is what they look for, it is what they want. Projecting their misery onto you. After all, all rude people are miserable inside. The school yard bully, the CEO who thinks he can do no wrong.

Of course, if the rudeness reaches a level of emotional abuse. Then there may be a problem. It’s nothing to be rude once and walk away but to continue on and belittle someone is an entirely different story. Shattering someone's confidence is undermining and demeaning. 

Normally when you have an encounter with a rude person you do not come away unscathed. It alters your way of thinking for days, months, maybe years. It depends on how humiliating an experience it was. I say, don’t let them win. Do not let them see they bothered you with their comment. Snotty, snippy, insulting, and surly attitudes do not deserve your time. 

Do rude people know they are rude? You would think they would. Some do and some do not. If told they are rude, a look of disbelief crosses their face.

Others do not have to say a word. They look at you with disdain. Haughty and superior, their mouths turned down in a grimace. No smile for you. You are not worthy of their smile. 

Smugness is contagious, beware all who display it. For they show their true face. See them for what they are. Someone who’s uncomfortable in their own skin. Their outward appearance hides the insecurities and fear raging through their bodies. Stay away from these people; they are toxic. They will make your life miserable and not think twice about it.

I Have Better Things to Do

Staying calm in the face of rudeness is and always will be your victory. Shrug your shoulders and walk away. You will be the hero. Leaving them stewing in their own stink. Or meet this rudeness with kindness, and then remove yourself from their presence. You are the queen of your domain. 

There is no need to ever one-up anyone. It is a red flag of insecurity. Often everyone sees through this person and recognizes and casts aside their rude ways. Facing someone who is rude is exhausting and frustrating. I have way better things to do with my time. 

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Be the guy or girl who smiles and says, I’ll take that as a compliment.

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Be the better, stronger person.

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