Are You a Dropper Inner

Welcome

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Are you the kind of person who just drops in on people without an invite? Gary and I are not. We only go where we are invited. There are people who invite themselves with no thought. My husband always thinks maybe they don’t want to see us. Never wanting to overstay our welcome, my husband forever wants to be the first to leave. At times I agree but there are times I do not. It depends on where we are and what we are doing.

Never Overstay Your Welcome

There is such a thing as overstaying your welcome. We have had people over like that. Gary and I look at each other as if to say, “ Is she ever going to leave.”  Making herself at home, watching tv, chatting, and petting our dogs. Settling in with a blanket on the couch we give up and accept the fact this person has no intention of heading home anytime soon. Soon, we hear the sound of popcorn popping and realize with a sinking feeling we are in for a late night. There were a few comments tossed back and forth about the fact that she should get going pretty soon. Her pretty soon turns into not so soon.

Take the Hint

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 It’s almost 10:30 at night and we still have a visitor with us. Will she ever get up and go? Can she take a hint? Yawning continuously doesn’t seem to do the trick. Saying I’m tired didn’t seem to get her up off the couch. I’m not quite sure what the answer is. Besides being rude, my husband and I would never go that route. So, we smile and engage in conversation.

How many hours are too many hours before your welcome wears out? Better yet, let’s start with how many days. They say any more than four days is overstaying your welcome. That seems like a long visitation to me. I cannot imagine staying anywhere that long myself. 

No Life

Why do people overstay their welcome? Perhaps they have nothing else going on with their lives. Nothing to do and nowhere to go. To me this is sad. To have such a barren life where the last thing you want to do is go home is a tragedy. There is nothing better than home is there? Not for my husband. Home is the place he wants to be. When we go somewhere he cannot wait to get home. He’s already talking about it as we drive out the driveway. It is what it is. Home is where the heart is. A safe haven, a nest, and a security blanket. Ultimately there is no place better than where you exist. 

There are little hints you can try to say if you really want someone to leave like, “Hey, thanks for coming, it was nice seeing you”, or “I have some things I need to get done and time is running short.” And my favorite, “Well this was fun.” Do not say, “I have to get dinner going.” They may ask what you’re having and wait for an invite. It would be rude not to invite them, right?

I'm Tired

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It’s dark outside and you want nothing more than having your guest leave so you can hit the sack. Jump up and say, " It was great seeing you, let’s do this again sometime.” Not in the near future is what runs through your mind. But you are too polite to say it. The next time an uninvited guest shows up, smile, welcome them in and hope for the best. If you see them grabbing a blanket and burrowing in deep on the couch realize you’re in for a long visit. 

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Don’t sweat the small stuff. Deep breaths.

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